"Personality Assessor" Test

 The only surprising thing for me about this test is that apparently I score much higher than is average in almost all elements of a relationship.

Here's a link to the page so any one who wants to can take the test: What are the most important elements in a relationship to you?





What do you look for in relationships?

This study examined which elements of a relationship are most important to you. Here are your results, based on your responses:

Affection is the most important part of a relationship to you!

Based on your responses, the most important factor in feeling close to another person is them regularly expressing love. 

Your General Relationship Preferences

Desired Involvement - 80th percentile - very high

Desired Independence - 35th percentile - low

Overall, you're looking for very high involvement in your relationships, which means that it takes very high levels of attention and maintenance in order for you to feel close with another person. You also seem to want low independence in your relationships.

 

Your Specific Relationship Preferences

#6 69%	#4 75%	#3 79%	#5 78%	#2 72%	#1 81%
Time Together	Communication	Intimacy	Support	Emotional Connection	Affection

Affection is the most important element of a close relationship to you, followed by:

2. Emotional Connection
3. Intimacy
4. Communication
5. Support
6. Spending Time Together

The gray, translucent bars in the above graph show how people in general rank the importance of each relationship quality. For example, people in general agree with you that affection is the most important component of close relationships.

By comparing the colored bars to the translucent bars, you can see how much you value each aspect of a relationship compared to people in general. For instance, you value spending time together in a close relationship more than do most other people.

Compared to the Average Person:

• You want to spend high amounts of time together in your close relationships.
• You need high levels of communication in order to feel close to others.
• You require high intimacy in your close relationships, which means that you want to share high amounts of personal information.
• Your desire for people to be there to support you when you need them is about average.
• In order for you to feel close to others, you require very high levels of emotional connection, which means it's of very high importance to you that other people like you, feel happy thinking about you, and miss you when you're not around.
• When trying to feel close to others, you need very high amounts of affection, which includes others finding ways to show you they love you.

What Explains Your Relationship Preferences?

Psychologists have found that people have different styles of forming relationships. These relationship styles are called attachment styles. Attachment styles are made up of two components: anxiety and avoidance. Anxiety refers to the extent that you worry that others won't like you or might abandon you. Avoidance refers to how much you dislike being too close to other people. People with different levels of anxiety and avoidance desire different amounts of involvement in relationships. Our relationship preferences are affected by our attachment styles.

Your Attachment Style

Anxiety - 80th percentile - very high

Avoidance - 4th percentile - extremely low

Your attachment style is preoccupied. People with this attachment style usually want to have very involved relationships. They may want such high levels of involvement in their relationships that they have a hard time feeling close to other people.

There are four attachment styles.

1. Secure individuals have low anxiety and avoidance. For the most part, they form close, comfortable relationships.
2. Preoccupied individuals have high anxiety and low avoidance. They like to feel close to other people, but may worry a lot about being abandoned in their relationships.
3. Dismissing individuals have high avoidance and low anxiety. They want to maintain control in their relationships, and don't like it when other people get too close.
4. Fearful-avoidant individuals have high avoidance and high anxiety. They may feel conflicting emotions in their relationships--wanting to feel close, but also fearing and disliking closeness.